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Maybe I don't need to share my whole self with every friend.
Maybe I can be funny and outgoing with one friend, and conservative and thoughtful with another, but still be authentic and real in both scenarios. We're all complex human creatures with many different needs and moods, so it makes sense that we don't give our whole selves to every person... or maybe any person.
Isn't that the joy of having friends? (multiple). Because one friend is hilarious and brings out my silly, outgoing side. Another friend is passionate and thoughtful, who brings out those qualities in me. With some friends I talk deeply and seriously about personal growth and the state of the world. With other friends I just giggle and gossip about boys. Neither is more important in my life. They're both scratching an itch in my heart or my mind, just in different spots.
I needn't worry about "being myself" as a single concept, because it's rarely just one thing. One friend might see me with another friend and barely recognise me because I seem different. Because I am different. But still the same. You know?
Maybe I speak louder or laugh more. Maybe I seem grumpier and don't smile as much as I normally would. Maybe I'm more sarcastic or more adventurous, or even have a slight English accent that came from who knows where (this happened once).
But I'm still me. I'm just in another part of my being. Scratching a different itch. It's not about hiding my true nature or being dishonest. It's about sharing and exploring the part of myself that is inspired by that particular friend. To learn from each other and feel part of something lovely and meaningful.
This month I let go of having a "routine" and my productivity hasn't died in the butt like I predicted it would. The opposite has happened! I feel more motivated then I've been in a long time and I was so bursting with energy today that I ran around the house happily taking photos just because I needed to MAKE SOMETHING.
I've noticed that spontaneous creative high doesn't happen as much when I try to commit to a solid daily routine for reasons of #productivity. I wake up unexcited to start the day and it feels like a chore to do things that should actually be fun, like working on my book. I tend to beat myself up for not sticking to "the schedule" or doing "enough" hours of work in the day.
It feels silly and obvious now that I'm writing about it, but I don't do well with routines. I should stop idealising them as the enlightened path to superhuman productivity and overall wellbeing and balance! They are not any of that. For me.
I love having rituals though. Rituals are different than a routine because you might do them almost every day but rarely at the same time or in the same place and sometimes you don't do them at all for a while. My current favourite rituals are making myself a hot cup of tea with coconut milk (that's a forever-ritual) and lighting my new ginger scented candle while I'm working late at my desk.
Rituals good. Routine not necessary. Have fun. Burn your to-do list. That about covers it I think?
Everyone is living a simple existence. No one is 'doing it all'.
We as the audience, on places like instagram, are seeing hundreds of different people doing thousands of different things, before we even finish digesting our morning peanut butter toast. But really, when you single out each individual person, they're only doing one or two things at a time. Their whole life focus (for that season in their life, at least) is only: yoga. Or only: tattooing. Or only: making small buttons of celebrity faces for their online shop.
Not to say these people don't have other things going on in their lives, too (friends, exercise, partying, eating, whatever) but most people (if not all people?) are living a simple existence. I keep reminding myself of that. These people I admire and somewhat envy, they only have a small few focuses in their life.
But then: when we see ALL these cool people bunched up together on our instagram feed or blog feed, it feels like everyone is doing everything all at once. But really, no one is doing it all.
We only need to choose a handful of things that are most important to us (for me right now: creative work, yoga and veganism) and feel good about focusing on that small bunch.
It's winter here in Melbourne, the perfect time to start a movie bucket list. I asked my friends (and some friendly folks on instagram) to suggest their favourite movies. Here's the list! I'm starting from the top and crossing them off as I go.
You can join in too, if you like:
It's a very mixed bag of movies. Best not to think too much about it or look them up, just watch and enjoy!